Thursday, July 27, 2006
Five surprising reasons men are happy in a relationship
He needs to communicate with you
A lot of men need to be in a relationship more than women do. Surprising? Not really, when you think about it. Women usually have close relationships with their friends. They talk about health problems until they feel better. But men don't. As Helen Fielding's character, Bridget Jones, says, 'Women have emotions and men have football.' Men are competitive and so, in general, they rarely share their emotions or problems with each other, as they think it makes them look too weak. When he needs to open up and talk about his feelings, guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable side to? You!
He wants to be your hero
Knowing that he can make someone else happy makes him feel good inside, because he has the power to change things. And what bloke doesn't secretly want power of some sort? At least if he can't always be top dog at work, he can be a star at home. Instinctively, he aspires to be Spider-Man or Superman - to be your hero, to be able to make things right: to be appreciated, to be someone's knight in shining armour. So when you are disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible. What matters is that you are happy and then he's got one less thing to worry about. Strange but true.
He strives to make you happy
The number one reason men leave relationships is because they feel as though they can't meet their partner's needs. This makes them feel inadequate, and it makes them feel as though there's no way their partner can feel respect for them. For women, communication seems to be the top priority in keeping the relationship going - but, quite honestly, men don't understand this constant need to talk about things over and over.
For men, the relationship is a success if they feel respected and if they make their partner happy. This is why a new conquest is exactly that - he feels as though he is in charge - he is once again someone's knight in shining armour.
If you resent him because you feel overworked and under-appreciated, stop doing so much - you are probably destroying your relationship! He doesn't want to feel responsible for you rushing around, worn into the carpet, and most men really don't notice whether the housework has been done or not. What they want is respect and appreciation. 'All we really want from women,' a (male) friend recently told me, 'is for you to smile at us.' (And probably one other thing, if he thought about it for longer than a millisecond.)
Salsaera Paradiz signing off lovingly 7/27/2006 05:34:00 PM
50 most romantic things to do w/ ur bf or gf but some are not neccessary
2. Whisper to each other.
3. Cook for each other.
4. Walk in the rain.
5. Hold hands
6. Buy gifts for each other.
7. Roses.
8. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you're together.
9. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.
10. Write poetry for each other.
11. Hugs are the universal medicine.
12. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.
13. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.
14. Tell her that she's the only girl you ever want. Don't lie!
15. Spend every second possible together.
16. Look into each other's eyes.
17. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly.
18. When in public, only flirt with each other.
19. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren't looking.
20. Buy her a ring.
21. Sing to each other.
22. Always hold her around her hips/sides.
23. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for twodeal.
24. Spaghetti? (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)
25. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart.
26. Dance together.
27. I love the way a girl looks right after she's fallen asleep with her head in my lap.
28. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.
29. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes
30. Even if you are really busy doing something,go out of your way to call and say I love you.
31. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them.
32. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.
34. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.
35. Be Prince Charming to her parents.
36. Brush her hair out of her face for her.
37. Hang out with his/her friends.
38. Go to church/pray/worship together.
39. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.
40. Learn from each other and don't make the same mistake twice.
41. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.
42. Make sacrifices for each other.
43. Really love each other, or don't stay together.
44. Let there never be a second during any givenday that you aren't thinking about them, and make sure they know it.
45. Love yourself before you love anyone else.
46. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.
47. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.
48. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.
49. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.
50. Never forget the kiss goodnight and alwaysremember to say, "Sweet dreams."
Salsaera Paradiz signing off lovingly 7/27/2006 05:29:00 PM
Here's some WORDS WOMEN USE, and what they actually mean...
FINE
This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks -- this will cause you to have one of those arguments.
FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.
NOTHING
This means "something," and you should be on your toes.
"Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"
GO AHEAD ( With Raised Eyebrows! )
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine"
GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows).
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care" You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.
LOUD SIGH
This is not actually a word, but is a nonverbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"
SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a nonverbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.
THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow."
GO AHEAD!
At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.
PLEASE DO
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay"
THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say, "You're welcome."
THANKS A LOT
This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing"
Salsaera Paradiz signing off lovingly 7/27/2006 05:27:00 PM
Tuesday, July 04, 2006
Too many things to the extend that I do not know where to start from.
First thing, I am glad and happy to announce that the recent partnership is OVER!! No more having to face the stupid partner of mine. Practically showing me attitude.
I may have good tolerance level but it's only up to a certain limit.
Dun dare try test my patience especially when it comes to dance.
I am not going to waste my money and time on unproductive dance practice.
Thank god that I had my dance exam with Annie Lao Shi... he.. omg... practically stopped a routine 3 times. So glad I did not dance with him or else... my exam fees will be down to drain. And that's money wasted. ARGH!!!!!
Seriously, some people should just mind their own business than having to pick on other people's matters. So what if my clothes are revealing... do you even know the reason behind before you just picking on the fact that my clothes are revealing. At least I dare to wear and I dare to flaunt whatever assets I have. My dance is latin which requires me to wear skimpy clothes so why do you even bother... If you dare or rather if you have anything flaunt it then. Then if you do not know anything shut yr bloody trap. I don't care what belt you have. Be it black, blue or whatever... you are nothing. Calling me an attention seeker...it's more like you are the one trying to get the attention. So watch what you say... Don't try messing around with me. It will just do you no good.
Sunday was the worst day of the week.
The worst competition I ever had in my entire dance life. I simply do not know what the F*** is up in his bloody brain. Giving me the attitude. WTH!!!
If you can't even accept facts and comments then in the very first place, you shouldn't have said, "Oh, if there's anything wrong which needs to change or improve on, please tell me straight" In the end... what do I get. Nothing but sacarisms. Been shot back in a very rude attitude asking me not to tell him what to do.
If you would have watched your image on the dance floor, I would not have spoken a single word.
List of things he done to piss me off.
1.While practicing, I simply hate that look on his face... Not only me but a lot of the rest agreed with me as well. That slap-able face. The simply can't be bothered blur look on his face.
2.I am the one who is looking out for the results.
3.When it's our turn to compete, I have to run all the way back to shout for you.
4.Took his own sweet time to walk.
The last 3 points are enough to kill him!!!
I simply wonder if he was there to take part in the competition or there to take video. Hello... Do you have any sense of responsibility... I put all the effort which I could and these are what I get.
If that's the case, I rather you not compete and not waste my time and MONEY... It's bloody hell 60 bucks for the competition fee. I not only spend on that... my hair... make-up... cab fare... HELLO... all these need money. You should seriously start thinking man.
Dun be thick skin and think that you are so great... Dun try to self-proclaim to people saying, "Oh I am more handsome than your bf." This sort of confidence will just only make people PUKE!!!
SERIOUSLY, THIS IS THE WORST EVER COMPETITION I HAD!!!!
Like I said... he is just way below the expectation level. I am demanding especially now when you do not do things the right way and especially for dance.
If you can't accept comments, then don't ask people for their opinions and if the answer is not what you wished for then that's too bad because you asked for it.
Straight after one dance... he walked one direction, I walked the other. Both on separate ways. PISSED!!!
Thank god!!! We are no longer partners!!! No more having to tolerate his nonsense.
Still having my own solo private lessons with Annie lao shi is the best... Having to fully utilize the timing and with the right effort. That's what I call money well spent. Missed the times when me and Theo practiced hard and had fun at the 31 July 2005 competition. All the joy and experience we had.
THIS PARTNERSHIP IS OVER!!!!
Salsaera Paradiz signing off lovingly 7/04/2006 01:42:00 AM
